Metta meditation: developing and practicing the love
Is it possible to develop the love? Ajahn Metta, master of the Buddhist tradition terevada the Forest Shanga that will guide an urban retreat in Madrid on 14 and 15 may, explains everything you want to know about Metta meditation. Isabel Ward interview.
Metta is the quality of the mind of love, to feel affection and empathy. It is a powerful tool in relationship with others, ourselves and life in general.
Metta has the qualities of receptivity, unconditional acceptance, generosity, love and kindness and a profundo sense of desiring the good of others so much as their own. The intention of wanting our well-being and that of others is powerful and most of us are starting to be able to do it.
Metta is intended to be kindly, however, without exception. It is to feel in connection. Connect with empathy, meet us and others as we are. However, as it is, without having to hide nothing since everything is well received. It means knowing what you are relating to. Many of us can really do it? Metta is uncompromising acceptance of what is.
Metta is also one of the four Brahmaviharaswhich means a divine law, a State of mind very sublime and beautiful. In the songs we do, is said to be immeasurable, with all-inclusive, high, without hostility or ill-will.
Because it is so difficult to relate to, connect with ourselves and others?
The truth is that we tend not to see us or to us or to others as we really are. Mostly we interact from the perceptions we have about ourselves and others. What happens, is that our perceptions don't match reality, and unexpectedly we have many difficulties within ourselves and in relation to the others... So when we try to relate with each other, the meeting occurs between two different perceptions, which leads to many possible bad misunderstandings and erroneous readings.
Another aspect that difficult relationship are the expectations we put on the other. We often feel that we have disappointed when others have not satisfied our demands. The funny thing is that the other person does not usually have no idea of our projections or the fact that we expect to fulfil them. This leads the relationship along a difficult path. Often do not have clear with what we're linking: we make assumptions based on our perceptions, which tend not to be successful. Sometimes just in a kind of knot made of bad understood without even knowing how we have reached that point.
Required much acceptance, understanding and awareness to really see and greet the person opposite. Find us from what we really are is a quality that most are just beginning to develop.
Another aspect is our intention. By linking me, am I aware of my own intentions?, what is my starting point? What do I want to create?, am I actually open or open to the course of events? I want to impress each other, prove me myself or myself or just want to settle my point of view? If we are experiencing difficulties relate to someone they are aspects and questions which we should look.
Is it to be compassionate?
Compassion is not the same as metta. Compassion is a quality of heart that emerges when we see and are suffering. The pali Word for this is Karuna. It is like "the trembling of the heart" in the presence of suffering. It is a direct response to the heart that suffers. This response will be presented according to the circumstances. But a fundamental quality of compassion is empathy: being able to be, moved from "feel with".
When we are going through difficult times or appear painful emotions is important to be able to relate us with compassion rather than trying to prevent those emotions affecting us, or belittle us or criticise. The way of relating to ourselves should be similar to how relacionaríamos us with a friend when you are experiencing difficult situations or feelings. If it is what they need and we can, we try to give our support and encouragement.
I think compassion is very important, because that connects us with other beings. We all experience suffering and are looking for a way out. The Buddhists say that We are all brothers and sisters in the old age, disease and death, which in other words means that we are all human and we all live with the same dilemmas. How can we connect and support each other when we see that we are struggling with this? Compassion, empathy, benevolent love are those wonderful qualities of the heart that we connected between if and help us to understand that we are interconnected as human beings.
And if not we can be understanding, if there is still much pain and suffering?
It means that we need to bring our attention exactly to that pain and frustration. I can feel the pain?, would let me be with frustration when it emerges? Often we can not feel worthwhile or forgive us to ourselves or to others because we have not connected with the pain and the frustration accompanying it.
I understand that it is sometimes very difficult to approaching that pain, feel those parts of ourselves that can be that we are not yet ready to see. Again, metta helps at least to accept this reality. At the same time you can show us you are not why we like what we see to develop acceptance. It is like watching the reality of a situation without changing it or trying to make it better or different. It is the possibility to allow things to be as they are. This includes yourself and others.
Can use compassion help to heal?
The truth, I don't know. What I do know from my own experience is that when I relate my own suffering with compassion, in the midst of all the pain a feeling of tranquility. There is an acceptance of my experience and a feeling that all is well, even if there is difficulty or pain at this moment in time. I see myself suffering and elaborated on where the pain is being manifest and try to hold it there, be with him and not despise me myself for what I'm feeling.
On the other hand, if we are having a difficult time a kind of healing takes place when we receive from the other staff, when we are not judged but that we are treated with kindness and empathy. You feel that you are not alone. Someone else sees you and welcomes you and tends to hand, and touches your heart. There is no doubt that this helps to loosen some of the painful feelings. It makes us harder is often feel alone in difficult situations. And someone to touch you and let you know that it looks so these past and accept you as you are at this moment... a kind of magical cure all there is this.
How will you develop your removal in Madrid?
Within the tradition are encouraged which I am linked to leave seminars take related to persons who come to receive them; Depending on your needs, your questions. Personally I like to see my "teaching" as a share of my personal experience. What I mean is when talking about practice of Universal love or Metta I would focus on the point that each one is. I mean the practice consists of developing a sense of acceptance that there is present and we are encountering, in us, in others, and even in the situations that life we will be presenting. The question that emerges is: How do I interact with the States of mind that are pleasant and unpleasant? With kindness and understanding.
One of the aspects of metta is unconditional love. But, what is unconditional love? And, how demons can practice it here, now in this moment? Metta or loving kindness has nothing to do with a romantic feeling but it is a quality of the mind that if it develops well and in depth is very powerful.
I think that the party is open heart, begin to be responsive, this will help us to create interior spaciousness. Then, we can start to include more and more things that we find in others and in ourselves. We use relacionarmos to properly when we feel good about ourselves and we find what we like. But how we we relate with our own difficulties and our bad experiences? And with others? Let's look at this fact honestly.
It is of great help, not take things personally. Normally no one is conscious form of make life difficult. It's more about: how to respond with wisdom and kindness to what is happening?
These are some aspects that I would like to see during the retreat.
Metta practice especially when you feel good, it is the best time. Do it when it is easy to develop it, in such a way that you will have a very useful tool when you need it. It's like learning to play an instrument; When we do not practice, skills or advance or we can use them. Metta is a powerful quality that helps us in times of need. But we need to put energy to make it emerge and be able to have it. If we practiced metta for a while, we know and we've probably had the experience of the well that it fits with the practice of mindfulness, helping us cope with difficult life situations and moments. I hope that this weekend it will help with this.
Urban meditation retreat with Sister Metta in Madrid
-Friday, May 13: practical presentation
Donation at the end of
-Saturday, 14 may: intensive of meditation from 09.30-18.30
-Sunday, 15 may: 9.30-16.30 meditation intensive
Programme: Guided meditation, meditation, walking, meditation in silence and conscious dialogue.
Contribution: €40 to cover expenses + gift
More information: http://www.yogaanandamaya.com/2016/03/09/el-arte-de-respirar/#more-3142